Loved Baby: A 7-Day Plan After Pregnancy Loss Sýnishorn

A field of perennial wildflowers grows in my front yard—bright pink, sunny yellow, and vibrant orange beauties wave in the wind. The honeybees from our hives rest upon the delicate petals and soak up the sweet nectar. These lovely flowers are not only eye-catching, but they also bestow life for the bees and crops on our farm. Wildflowers were created to be carefree and to grow wherever they are rooted. 

We, as sisters in Christ, are much like these wildflowers, aren’t we? At our strongest we nurture others and radiate love. We are fetching, glorious creatures. We yearn to grow life and enjoy a carefree existence, but the loss of our baby changes that for us, doesn’t it? 

Dear mama, you are like this field of wildflowers. You were your bright self when all of a sudden your precious child left for heaven. You did nothing to cause this, yet it is far from where you thought your life would be planted this season. Now you are suffocating. You don’t feel or look like your former self, do you? You can barely take care of yourself—much less give life to others. 

Your very roots have come undone. You wonder if you will ever emerge from this sadness. 

Gather close as I tell you: You will get to the other side of grief. You’ll go through a frigid winter, but eventually spring will emerge. Just like the wildflowers in my field, you, too, will gain new strength from your former self and establish new roots and new life. A new you will slowly begin to emerge. “How?” you might ask. God says that we will all be a new creation and molded into new strength from our suffering.