13 Keys in RelationshipsSýnishorn

Key 11: Wait until marriage

Moving in together and trying out life together to see if we are compatible has become common practice, even sometimes among believers. No one can stop you from living together like a married couple. However, having sex outside of marriage does something to a relationship that is difficult to explain. It will spark unnecessary vulnerabilities such as trust and security that can lead to many conflicts and contentions. If we choose to honor God's intention with marriage, that it is sacred and special and holy; it also does something to a relationship. It brings stability, security, safety, and a feeling of being shielded from the attacks of this world. It is a fact that children conceived within marriage respond differently to life than those conceived outside of marriage. You and your partner have the opportunity to do what is honoring God, honoring one another, and preparing a safe home emotionally, spiritually, and physically for any future children.

If you are sure that the Lord has put you together as a couple and that you want to spend the rest of your lives together, then get married! It does not have to be expensive. Honor the Lord.

QUESTIONS TO ASK

>> If you and your partner are still unmarried, but are already living together like husband and wife, have an open discussion on this from a Biblical point of view.

>> Ask the Lord to guide you in what to do about it. Repent before the Lord of anything in your relationship that is not pleasing to Him.

>> Decide together what changes you want to make in your relationship and regarding your future.