4 Prayers to Heal a Marriage Damaged by PornSýnishorn

Prayer for Healing and Restoration

Healing and restoration after pornography addiction in a Christian marriage is challenging but there is real hope. God can not only bring healing but also guide you in building the marriage He designed for you.

Psalm 147:3 says that God “heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” That’s what God can do for you. He can heal your broken hearts and bind up your marriage wounds. Will you believe and ask God to do that for you today?

Even though this is a difficult season, my prayer is that one day you will see it as the day that you chose to lean in to God, each other and your marriage. That day that you began building what the enemy was determined to tear down.

The process requires commitment, faith, and practical steps from both spouses:

For the Recovering Spouse:

• Acknowledge the sin and confess to your spouse. James 5:16 emphasizes the power of confessing sins to one another for healing. It's a necessary step in the process of healing your marriage.
• Seek professional help. Engaging with a Christian counselor who specializes in sexual addiction can provide the necessary tools and support that you need.
• Accountability and Boundaries. Implement accountability measures, including finding an accountability partner, and set clear boundaries to help prevent relapse.
• Open Communication. Honest and open communication with your spouse is essential.
• Spiritual Support. Rely on your faith. Seeking spiritual support through prayer, Bible study, and involvement in your church.
• Rebuilding Trust. This includes transparency, honesty, and a commitment to change. Trust can be rebuilt through small, consistent actions over time.

For the Betrayed Spouse:

• Acknowledge the pain and the betrayal: Discovering your spouse's porn addiction is traumatic and can destroy both trust and intimacy in your marriage. Give yourself time to grieve and process your emotions.
• Seek professional help: Find a Christian counselor who understands betrayal, trauma and porn addiction.
• Establish boundaries and consequences: Set clear boundaries with your spouse and implement consequences if porn use continues such as temporary separation or other consequences to emphasize the seriousness of this issue.
• Focus on personal healing: Prioritize your own emotional and spiritual healing by deepening your relationship with God.

Let's pray together:

"Heavenly Father, we come before you, broken and hurting. Our marriage has been deeply wounded by the effects of pornography. We ask for your healing touch on our hearts, minds, and relationship. Restore what has been damaged and help us rebuild trust. Give us the strength to forgive and the wisdom to move forward in a healthy way. We know that with you, all things are possible. Renew our love and commitment to each other. In Jesus' name, Amen."