[Wisdom of Solomon] Keys to a Lasting LoveSýnishorn

Trust Fall!

Do you ever remember doing trust falls growing up? For those who don’t know, you have someone stand behind you to catch you while you just blindly fall backward. If they catch you, all is good. If they don’t catch you, then you know you probably shouldn’t trust them. This should be an easy way to figure out who is trustworthy, right? Sadly, this isn’t the best way. It was once said that trust is lost in buckets, but built-in drops. Trust is built up over time. It comes when someone or something shows a track record of being steady and consistent.

In your marriage, you can be given many keys to a successful and healthy marriage, but if there isn’t trust there, these keys won’t matter. So, what do we do when we find that we have lost trust in our loved one? How do we stay the course for a long time? If we continue to walk, or sometimes trudge, and work on rebuilding that trust, our marriage gets better and better and our love grows deeper and deeper. How do we do this? We must trust God for help. This is the next key to a love-saturated marriage: trusting God for help.

Song of Songs 8:6 talks about love that is as strong as death, but it also mentions flashes of fire, the fire in which is the flame or blaze of the Lord. Going back through the Old Testament you can see the track record of the Lord’s flame. You see it in chapter 3 of Exodus as the burning bush with Moses, a bush that doesn’t burn up, which symbolizes that the flame of God in marriage will never be burned up. Then you see the flame in Exodus 13, where it is a pillar of fire leading the Israelites through the night. Sometimes it can feel like darkness and night in your marriage. You’re not sure if the light will ever appear, but we only need to remember that the flame of the Lord still burns.

In the toughest moments, you can trust that the Lord sees you and hears you. His work in your marriage and your life is still going. When we find it difficult to trust that everything is going to be okay, all we need to do is look back, set our feet on the Rock that doesn’t move, and warm our cold hearts by the flame of the Lord again. He is always steady and always trustworthy.