Philippians: 14 Days of Hope and EncouragementSýnishorn

It’s painful to see brothers and sisters in Christ shatter friendships because of disagreements or hurt feelings. Unfortunately, the effects don’t end with the two who argue. All those who know them are often drawn to choose sides. The negative impact on others can be far-reaching.

Paul was imprisoned in Rome and far from Philippi, yet even without the immediate modes of connection we have today, Euodia and Syntyche’s conflict impacted him.

We don’t know exactly what happened between these two godly women. Scripture teaches they labored alongside Paul to promote the gospel and that he cared about them. He considered it urgent that these two would be restored to harmony.

When we’re unable to forgive or reconcile with our brothers and sisters in Christ, all believers suffer. Jesus desires unity among His people and commands us to love each other. But we’re human and fall short. Too often we argue, disagree, and experience broken relationships. This is like a wound on the body of Christ that needs healing.

How do we heal the wound?

• Pray for those you know who have hard feelings toward another.
• Be willing to listen and offer insight where there is misunderstanding.
• Refuse to participate in gossip or details concerning the problem.
• Forgive as you’ve been forgiven whether you’re directly involved or a bystander.
• Seek common ground. Our unity is found in Christ; come together in His name.

When encountering conflict, it’s easy to walk away or try and recruit as many as possible to our way of thinking instead of seeking resolution. This only causes greater division.

May restoring relationships become a priority in our churches as it was for Paul. Scripture tells us the world will know we are Christians by our love (John 13:35). Let’s follow Paul’s example by seeking reconciliation.

~Susan Aken

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