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Recognize Your Regrets
In the next few days, you will be introduced to a three-step process that can empower you to respond constructively to any type of regret. The first step in the process is to recognize your regrets for what they are. What exactly is it that you are feeling badly about? Have you either underestimated or overestimated how serious it is? What power does it have or not have to effect your future? We need to answer these questions if we want to start over.
That seems like simple advice, doesn’t it? Maybe too simple? Yet the human mind has some reflexive responses to powerful emotions - such as regret - that can make it hard to honestly face reality.
For that reason, here are two don’ts and one do when it comes to taking stock of your own regrets.
Don’t dwell on your regrets. Up to a point, mentally rehearsing something that happened might be helpful to you. You want to learn from your regrets so it’s good to analyze and try to understand what really happened. But too often you go way beyond performing a helpful post analysis by replaying it in your mind over and over again until it takes up far more of your attention than it merits.
Don’t hide from your regrets. What may be more dangerous than thinking too much about your regrets is not thinking about them at all. That is a huge mistake! In many ways, you try to ignore or escape from your regrets. You don’t face them at all – or at least you don’t face them truthfully.
Do face your regrets head-on. If you have been dancing around your regrets, trying to pretend they’re not there, or given your regrets so much power you can’t even see them plainly, you’ve got to stop. You can’t change what happened in the past, but you can change what you do in response from here on out. Your choice of response is all-important for your future.
Never doubt this: God does not want to leave you crushed under the weight of your regrets. That’s why you have to ask God to give you the courage to face your regrets and stare them down until they lose their power over you. When you do that, your regrets won’t be a finish line, they’ll be a starting line!
Reflect: Is your deepest regret the result of something you did or didn’t do? Was it something that was done to you? What is keeping you from facing your deepest regrets head-on?
In the next few days, you will be introduced to a three-step process that can empower you to respond constructively to any type of regret. The first step in the process is to recognize your regrets for what they are. What exactly is it that you are feeling badly about? Have you either underestimated or overestimated how serious it is? What power does it have or not have to effect your future? We need to answer these questions if we want to start over.
That seems like simple advice, doesn’t it? Maybe too simple? Yet the human mind has some reflexive responses to powerful emotions - such as regret - that can make it hard to honestly face reality.
For that reason, here are two don’ts and one do when it comes to taking stock of your own regrets.
Don’t dwell on your regrets. Up to a point, mentally rehearsing something that happened might be helpful to you. You want to learn from your regrets so it’s good to analyze and try to understand what really happened. But too often you go way beyond performing a helpful post analysis by replaying it in your mind over and over again until it takes up far more of your attention than it merits.
Don’t hide from your regrets. What may be more dangerous than thinking too much about your regrets is not thinking about them at all. That is a huge mistake! In many ways, you try to ignore or escape from your regrets. You don’t face them at all – or at least you don’t face them truthfully.
Do face your regrets head-on. If you have been dancing around your regrets, trying to pretend they’re not there, or given your regrets so much power you can’t even see them plainly, you’ve got to stop. You can’t change what happened in the past, but you can change what you do in response from here on out. Your choice of response is all-important for your future.
Never doubt this: God does not want to leave you crushed under the weight of your regrets. That’s why you have to ask God to give you the courage to face your regrets and stare them down until they lose their power over you. When you do that, your regrets won’t be a finish line, they’ll be a starting line!
Reflect: Is your deepest regret the result of something you did or didn’t do? Was it something that was done to you? What is keeping you from facing your deepest regrets head-on?
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About this Plan
Regrets. We all have them. Whether it be last week or last year, we long to make things right – to change direction, to begin again. The good news is this: You can escape the “Sorry Cycle” of longing and regret and start over. Give God the opportunity to redeem your regrets so you can see good come from life’s deepest disappointments. Yes, you can learn to live beyond your regrets!
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