Six Lies Girls BelieveSýnishorn

Lie #4: He is the nicest guy around. Though he doesn’t believe in Jesus, He did come to church with me, and after marriage I can get him saved!

Lost count of how many times we have heard this!!

Well, good is not enough because good is not God. If good were enough, Jesus would have not died for us. 

Yes, we are called to love everyone, but loving an unbeliever is different from marrying one. God is blatantly clear on this: You can’t afford to be yoked (have deep friendships/marry) with unbelievers, no matter how cute, humorous, or kind the boy may seem (2 Cor 6:14-16). It’s the difference between being dead and alive! Without Jesus, it doesn’t matter how healthy your view of marriage is—a dead spouse cannot make a living marriage. 

Mind you Jesus loves the unbeliever more than you do. He died for that person too! And yet He doesn't want you to marry him because He knows that slowly but surely that person will turn your heart away from Him (Deu 7:3-4). And that’s disconnecting from life itself!

You see marriage is two spirits becoming one. When you choose to marry an unbeliever, the spirit of light within you is going to be countered with the spirit of darkness in him. It’s like playing with fire! It carries potentially life-long, negative spiritual consequences and personal hardship. Expect strife, lack of peace, and animosity because you are both not of the same spiritual structure. When all the romance and physical attraction fades away, it is the faith that will keep your marriage running.

And don’t be blinded; you are not the Savior! Leave that to Jesus.  If God were confident in this ability of ours, He would have told us all to get married to unbelievers. That would be the easiest way to bring souls to the kingdom! But there is a big reason why God said "No" because He knows this is not in our capacity or ability. You will lose years of the love relationship you have with Christ as you work towards "bringing" your spouse to Him. Also, there is a high possibility for the man to accept Christ for your sake, and that is not true salvation!

Even as you are reading this, and if you are in a serious relationship with an unbeliever, we encourage you to honor God by obeying Him. You don’t even have to pray about this, but make a decision to sever your ties, no matter how difficult or impossible it looks and apologize to that person. It is better to cry now than to cry for a lifetime!

 Reflection:

1. Can you trust God as a Father to open doors for your marriage and to bring the right person in your life? 
2. Keep the feelings aside, and ponder does your life partner pursue Jesus on their own or do they have to be motivated by you? 
3. Is your heart set to please God, or is your heart set to please the person?