Conquering DeathSýnishorn

Fear of Dying In Pain

We all have a natural fear of pain, and a profound fear of prolonged pain. Pain without meaning is weakening. Pain with meaning, such as giving birth to a child, can be borne with a sense of purpose. Though we fear pain, pain is one experience that unites us as human beings. The deepest pain is spiritual. A man, let’s call him Jake, recently discovered his girlfriend was seeing another man. Jake also suffered from multiple illnesses. In the chaplain’s office, bent over with his head on the chaplain’s desk, Jake said, “I would choose my physical pain any time compared to this pain of betrayal.” People in the Bible faced both physical and spiritual pain.

The following Scriptures help us understand how they, and possibly we, find meaning in the midst of suffering.

Readings from the Old Testament

The people of ancient Israel cried out to God in their time of need, trusting in God’s unfailing love.

Deuteronomy 26:7

Job 7:13

Lamentations 3:25, 31-33

Many of the psalms include prayers of those who turned to God in times of suffering and pain. God hears the cries of all who call upon him for help.

Psalm 12:5-6

Psalm 22:24

Psalm 25:16-18

Psalm 31:5, 7, 14-15a

Psalm 38:9, 15, 17, 21-22

Psalm 69:16-17, 29

Psalm 119:49-50

In the midst of suffering, the prophets Isaiah and Daniel prayed to God on behalf of the people of ancient Israel, trusting in God’s mercy and constant love.

Isaiah 14:3

Isaiah 63:7-9a

Daniel 9:4b, 18, 19

Readings from the New Testament

Jesus has compassion on all who are sick and suffering.

Matthew 4:23-24

In speaking to his disciples, Jesus promises that suffering and sadness will turn to gladness and joy that no one can take away. Jesus said:

John 16:21-22, 33

The apostle Paul describes his own suffering for the sake of the Gospel.

2 Corinthians 12:7-10

The apostle Paul and the author of 1 Peter remind us that, following a time of suffering, we will share in Christ’s glory.

Romans 8:16-18

1 Peter 5:10

The vision described by John while in Patmos is of a new heaven and a new earth, where death, sorrow, and pain will be no more.

Revelation 21:1-4

Thoughts for Reflection

1. Am I able to ask for help with my pain, or does fear of appearing weak or fear of addiction prevent me from getting the relief I need?
2. Do I feel that I deserve to suffer or that God has abandoned me in my suffering? If so, will I ask to speak to a chaplain or clergy person about these feelings?
3. In the midst of my pain, have I considered memorizing a Scripture passage and repeating it many times as a prayer and as a way to take my mind off my pain?
4. Is part of my physical pain caused by fear, guilt, or anger? If so, am I willing to talk to a chaplain or someone I trust about these feelings?

Prayer

Dear God, at times I fear being overwhelmed by pain. At times pain seems nearly bigger than I am. Sometimes I feel ashamed because I cry out or because I lash out at others. Lord, help me accept my limitations; help me to ask for help.

Be near to remind me that I do not have to bear this alone. Remind me that you do not intend for me to suffer, and remind me that you suffer with me. And Lord, if it is at all possible, help me find relief. Thank you for listening. Amen.