Seven Days to “The Intimacy You Crave” Bible PlanSýnishorn

Fun

Sex is fun. Would you agree? 

In The Language of Sex, Dr. Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham report, “The top thing a woman wants from a man is gentleness. The top thing a man wants from a woman is responsiveness. Just as a woman craves gentleness, a man desires that the woman respond to him.”

But what if things have gotten dull, boring, or blah blah blah…?

Respond to him differently and you’ll change everything. 

One time I bought purple silk sheets and put them on our bed. That night as my husband got into bed, his pillow went flying across the room. Not exactly what I had anticipated. It wasn’t very romantic, but it made for a good laugh. And it definitely changed things up! Often during the night when my husband or I rolled over, our pillows would shoot out like missiles. 

It wasn’t long before we changed back to our regular sheets, but it was fun for a while. Even if things don’t go as planned, you can still have fun, even if not in an erotic way. Fun leads to more “fun.” 

God wants you to have fun and enjoy your marriage relationship. 

When we think of Jesus, we often think of depictions of a very serious Messiah, but I’ll bet Jesus smiled. A lot. And laughed and had fun. 

In Ecclesiastes 3:1-4 it says, “There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven – A time to give birth and a time to die; A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted. A time to kill and a time to heal; A time to tear down and a time to build up. A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance.”

Enjoy your marriage. Enjoy your husband. Have fun together! Laugh. Embrace. Respond. 

So what? If things have gotten a bit dull, spice it up by trying something new. Go hog wild even and buy some silk sheets or respond in a way that surprises him. Or think of your own passionate idea. 

Dear heavenly Father, help me to have fun in my marriage and to have fun in my bedroom.