How to Talk About Finances When the Relationship Gets SeriousSample

Day 5: How To Talk About Finances, pt. 2

"My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." - James 1:19

As you dive into the money talk, make sure you listen more than you talk, focus on what the Bible says, and use it as a time to grow closer together. Here’s how to make it a positive experience:

Listen Actively

James 1:19 tells us, "My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." When you’re deep into the conversation about money, make sure to stay engaged. You can do simple gestures like nod your head, ask questions, and repeat what you heard to make sure you understand. You might say, “I hear you’re worried about saving for the future. Can you tell me more?” This shows respect and helps you learn more about each other.

Lean on the Bible

The Bible has a lot to say about money and how we should use it. Reading passages about finances and stewardship can help you both agree on how to handle money. For example, Proverbs 21:5 tells us, “The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty.” This verse reminds us that planning and being careful with money is wise. Take time to read and discuss Bible verses like these together. It will help you see God’s plan for your finances and bring you closer as a couple.

Dream Together

Talking about money is also a great time to dream about your future together. Use this opportunity to discuss and align your financial hopes and goals. Maybe you both want to save for a special trip or buy a home in your first year of marriage. Dreaming together helps you see if your goals match and gives you something exciting to work toward. Be transparent about what you envision for the future. Perhaps you want to start a business one day or be a stay-at-home parent. When you share your dreams, it brings you closer and makes you feel like a team working toward the same goals.

As you get serious about each other and start having more serious talks — like conversations about money — remember to always approach these discussions with love and understanding. With God’s guidance, you can turn even the toughest talks into opportunities for growth and deeper connection.

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