Show Up

I can be a blessing to others while waiting on my own blessing.

Being able to shift my perspective is a powerful self-care strategy for me. Far too often, I get caught up in my wants and needs, trials and tribulations, failures and fears, and I forget to consider that the people around me are dealing with their own stuff. When I’m preoccupied with everything in my life, it’s easy to feel hopeless and burnt out. This is my signal to shift gears, to find something to focus on other than myself. To consider that doing something thoughtful for someone else and seeing them smile can infuse joy into my day.

We can’t help others when our focus is solely on ourselves and our present circumstances. We never know how close someone is to giving up or giving in. Sometimes we just have to show up for each other, because most people don’t know what they need when they’re in the midst of falling apart. Look around. If you see a friend who is struggling, consider some of these suggestions:

• Send or drop off dinner.

• Send a handwritten card in the mail.

• Drive carpool for them or take the kids on a Saturday.

• Offer to sit and listen.

• Validate (and don’t minimize) their feelings.

• Suggest they talk to a doctor or a mental health professional, and offer to go with them.

You can even volunteer to serve at a charity in your community. Local food banks and community gardens are great places to start.

Remember, you can be a light for someone even when things in your own life don’t look very bright. Showing up for others is often part of your own self-care.

You can still show up for others when things in your own life are challenging. You don’t have to be perfect to love and support the people in your community.

Prayer

Father, I want to be a blessing for others. Please help me identify opportunities where I can share your love, and please guide me as I show up for and encourage those around me. Amen.