Day 3: Selflessness

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” - Philippians 2:3-4

Sign #2 That You’re Ready for a Christian Marriage: You Understand the Importance of Selflessness

Marriage is not about what you can get but what you can give. Being ready for a Christian marriage means you understand the importance of selflessness and are prepared to put your partner's needs above your own. This doesn't mean neglecting your needs but rather finding a balance where you both feel loved, valued, and respected.

Philippians 2:3-4 teaches us to act with humility and to value others above ourselves. In the context of marriage, this means considering your partner's needs and feelings as important as your own. It’s about being willing to make sacrifices and compromises for the well-being of your relationship.

Selflessness in marriage involves everyday actions. It could be something as simple as letting your partner choose the movie to watch, even if it's not your favorite genre, or taking on extra household chores when they have had a tough day. These small acts of kindness show your partner you care about their happiness and comfort.

Selflessness means being a good listener. Pay attention to your partner's words and feelings without interrupting or judging. Genuinely listening shows respect and empathy, which are fundamental for a healthy marriage.

It's also important to support your partner's dreams and goals. Encourage them in their pursuits, celebrate their achievements, and be there for them during setbacks. When you prioritize your partner's growth and happiness, you build a strong, supportive partnership.

However, selflessness doesn’t mean losing yourself or ignoring your own needs. A healthy marriage requires a balance where both partners feel valued and respected. Communicate openly about your needs and find ways to support each other mutually.

As you prepare for marriage, practice selflessness in your daily interactions. Look for opportunities to serve and uplift your partner. By doing so, you embody the love and humility essential for a thriving Christian marriage.