Raising Spiritually and Emotionally Intelligent Children (Part 2)Sample

Launching Children into their destinies and expanding their reflective thinking capacity

And Mordecai told them to answer Esther: “Do not think in your heart that you will escape in the king’s palace any more than all the other Jews. For if you remain completely silent at this time, relief and deliverance will arise for the Jews from another place, but you and your father’s house will perish. Yet who knows whether you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” Then Esther told them to reply to Mordecai: “Go, gather all the Jews who are present in Shushan, and fast for me; neither eat nor drink for three days, night or day. My maids and I will fast likewise. And so I will go to the king, which is against the law; and if I perish, I perish!” Esther 4:13-16 (NKJV)

Mordecai sent a message that provoked Esther to overcome her fears and adopt a spiritual strategy for victory. Spiritually intelligent parents launch their children into their spiritual assignment or purpose. Mordecai recognized they were dealing with a territorial spirit seeking to wipe out a generation of people, and Esther would not be immune from the principality at work. Hence, it was crucial for Esther to take courage and launch into a deeper dimension in the realm of the spirit—She must overcome fear, be selfless, and exercise her spiritual authority over the power of darkness working through Haman. Mordecai’s words were spiritually potent enough to activate the anointing Esther needed to carry out the assignment that made her a force to reckon with in history. Dear parents, your words can help your children overcome their fears, anxieties, doubts, and whatever the enemy uses to limit them from walking in God’s purpose for their lives. We must understand and exercise our spiritual authority by faith—Rebuke the spirit of fear, timidity, rebellion, shame, etc., with God’s word, the word of faith.

Mordecai’s message to Esther was both spiritually powerful and emotionally regulating. Mordecai’s words did not make Esther more dysregulated or destabilized than before she received his message. Emotionally intelligent parents know how to help their children calm down with words—they know how to communicate truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), promoting emotional connection and spiritual maturity.

A man has joy in giving an appropriate answer, And how good and delightful is a word spoken at the right moment—how good it is! Proverbs 15:23 (AMP)

Mordecai’s words expanded Esther's capacity for reflective thinking. He reminded Esther of her Jewish roots, helped Esther put herself in the shoes of other Jews who were less privileged, highlighted the possible consequences of her being passive about the situation of her people, and his final statement helped her imagine she could make a difference. Esther went from thinking she was helpless to seeing her role in the big picture. Like Mordecai, you can expand your children’s capacity for reflective thinking by asking open-ended questions and guiding your children to reflect on past events and make plans for the future.

I pray you will become more spiritually sensitive and available to launch your children into their divine purposes, and your words will be filled with wisdom, causing your children to obey instructions instead of rebelling. Amen.