Things to Look for in a HusbandSample

Honest Husband

Who would argue against being honest? But many husbands and wives consider dishonesty a good idea under certain conditions. The fact is that marriages are ruined by dishonesty, not by honesty (Psalm 37:37).

If a husband does not provide honest and open communication, trust can be undermined, and feelings of security can be destroyed. Then you can’t trust the signals being sent, and you have no foundations on which to build a solid relationship. Instead of growing together, you grow apart (Ephesians) 4:25. You would identify an honest husband if:

1. He reveals his positive and negative emotional reactions to the events in your life, particularly his behavior. It’s best if you have a steady flow of accurate data from each other. Honesty enables a couple to make appropriate adjustments to each other. Both of you are growing and changing with each new day, and you must constantly adjust to each other’s changes. But you can’t make the proper adjustments if you’re not receiving accurate information. Honest feelings need to be expressed and received. Complaints must be heard and honored.

2. He reveals information about his personal history, particularly events that demonstrate personal weakness or failure. He comes clean with you about embarrassing experiences or serious mistakes. The inclinations that led him to do something in his past are still a part of his nature, and the effects of certain situations have molded who he is. These things need to be shared. This also means that he will disclose any past sexual relationships if you understand each other completely.

3. He reveals information about the events of his day. He keeps you posted about his activities, emphasizing those that may affect you. In good marriages, couples become so interdependent that sharing a daily schedule is essential to coordinating activities.

4. He reveals his thoughts and plans regarding future activities and objectives. And never do anything without an enthusiastic agreement between both of you. If he genuinely respects you, he will want your input and support on the decision and agreement on the direction.

5. He will not leave you with a false impression about his thoughts, feelings, habits, likes, dislikes, personal history, daily activities, or plans for the future. Neither of you should deliberately keep personal information from your spouse.

Only honesty will make an emotional climate possible where trust will be born, which will be the basis for achieving an emotionally balanced couple. I pray that in your course of searching for a good husband, you will not fall into the hands of the dishonest ones.