Spiritual Intimacy as CouplesSample

Trust, Spiritual Leadership, and Sex

Dave and Kati from Louisiana, married 11 years

Early in our marriage, I (Dave) found praying together to be very awkward. I (Kati) found it difficult to let Dave be the boss in spiritually leading our family. Whether through Bible studies or just discussing Scripture, I had a difficult time trusting him. That made spiritual intimacy really uncomfortable.

Over the years, we have grown tremendously. 

We pray together now! Prayer has revolutionized our relationship. Part of that has been establishing gut-wrenching honesty. I (Dave) stopped making excuses and letting fear and pride get in the way and just pursued God with reckless abandon. Honesty and vulnerability were essential to allowing us to grow in our prayer life. Joshua 1:8 instructs us to study this book of instruction continually, to meditate on God’s Word day and night. And it says we will prosper in all we do. It wasn't until I got right with God that Kati trusted me. Now, even sex has become spiritual. We can pray during lovemaking. 

And we do our best to start each day with three things: a 10-item gratitude list, one thing we love about each other, and a prayer. That's part of our shared, daily quiet time. Also, we have established vision weekends where we talk, dream and pray about life together, and that has directly impacted our spiritual intimacy. 

Hope for the Future

We are eager to see what God has for us. We know how shallow it was in the beginning, and we're interested to find out how deep our relationship can go. We want to see how God will use our unity to bring change and healing to the world around us. 

Reflection

Are there areas of your life you have refused to allow God to enter (such as sexuality)?

If so, what makes it difficult to bring God into these areas of life?