Fighting for Love in a Porn Affected MarriageMuestra

Like many other married guys in recovery, my husband definitely arrived in his therapist’s office with a female footprint on his back. Now eleven years sober from porn, my husband will be the first to admit that it was my action of drawing a firm line in the sand that provided him with a way of escape.  God spoke truth and life to him through me. 

In Genesis 2:18 we see the reason for the creation of Eve.

“It is not good for the man to be alone. 
I will make a helper suitable for him.” 

God created a helper for Adam who was suitable for him. Not just generically suitable, but uniquely suitable for him.  Let that sink in a minute. Even though you may feel very different from your husband, according to God you are perfect for him. Just being you, with your unique qualities and convictions, makes you his ideal team-mate. You are what he needs.  

Now I know this is a lot to swallow, especially if things feel far from perfect at the moment, but what your husband actually needs right now is someone who cares about him to be bold and brave enough to tell him the truth. 

Dear sister, do not be afraid of what you feel stirring inside you.  You are being prepared for God to use you in a mighty way to transform your marriage. You have been given this particular kingdom task not because you think you are up to the job, but because of what God knows is inside of you. Do not fear what lies ahead. You were created for a time such as this, and God will be with you every step of the way. 

“For the Lord your God is the one who will go with you; he will not leave you or abandon you.” (Deuteronomy 31:6-8)