Setting Boundaries in Christian CourtshipSample

Day 2 - How to Set Boundaries

1. Communicate Clearly

Effective communication is key to setting boundaries. Both individuals should openly and honestly discuss their expectations, values, and limits. (Ephesians 4:29) "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."

2. Agree on Boundaries Together

Boundaries should be agreed upon mutually, respecting each other's comfort levels and beliefs. (Amos 3:3) "Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?"

3. Be Specific and Clear

Ensure that the boundaries set are clear, leaving no room for misinterpretation. (Matthew 5:37) "All you need to say is simply 'Yes' or 'No'; anything beyond this comes from the evil one."

4. Regularly Revisit and Adjust

As the relationship progresses, circumstances may change. It's important to regularly revisit and adjust boundaries as needed.(Proverbs 27:17) "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another."

Common Boundaries in Christian Courtship

1. Physical Boundaries

These include limits on physical touch, affection, and intimacy to maintain purity.

2. Communication Boundaries

Establish guidelines on how and when to communicate, ensuring a healthy balance between personal space and togetherness.

3. Social Media and Technology

Set limits on the use of technology and social media to maintain quality time and avoid potential distractions.

4. Spiritual Activities

Agree on the frequency and nature of engaging in spiritual activities like prayer, Bible study, or attending church services together.