Red Flags in a RelationshipSample

Recognizing Red Flags

A red flag is an indication that we should stop before moving further. We must be aware of these abusive habits that are red flags in dating or in a relationship. You need to understand that a pairing like this is unworthy of you. The following are ways of identifying a toxic relationship.

• Your family does not like it.

This has major significance. God purposefully and selflessly gave you a family. They know and understand you best. They are more familiar with your character traits and shortcomings than your friends are. Take this carefully if your family has strong objections to a partner. Consider their advice.

• You see a lot of conversation but little to no action.

A huge issue arises, for example, when a man expresses many brilliant ideas but does not act on them. Action must follow words. You need to take a step back if your partner talks a lot but doesn’t do much. A woman requires a man who can do more than talk the talk. He must actively pursue his faith in Christ. “Above all, my brothers, do not swear by heaven, earth, or any other oath; rather, let your yes be yes, and your no be no so that you will not be judged” (James 5:12).

• Your partner fits who you want him to be.

The issue is not that a man might have interests; he is altering his interests, convictions, and aspirations to suit yours. He needs to have his convictions, interests, and purposes if he wants to be the spiritual guide in his family. You’re in trouble if all he does is support your pet causes. Instead of a chameleon, you need a leader.

• Your partner damages you spiritually.

Husbands should cherish their wives as Jesus loved the church and sacrificed Himself for her, that He would purify her, having cleaned her through the washing in His blood and the water, that he may introduce her to Himself. (Ephesians 5:25–27).

• Your partner has regular problems with sin.

Marriage does not cure habitual sins. They might be hidden by sleepy days and speeding hearts, yet they will reveal their hideous selves if they are not acknowledged and submitted to Christ. For example, your guy has to quit and get outside advice if he is engaged in a persistent sin (such as porn, lust, rage disorders, alcohol, and drug misuse, gluttony, etc.). Don’t merely assume the worst and foolishly believe the sin will disappear—it won’t.

• Your partner has an open relationship with God.

His relationship with the Lord should be the cornerstone of your partner’s life. You need to examine its foundation more closely if he is not spending more time in the Word (Psalms 119:105), participating in his church (Hebrews 10:25), looking for outside guidance (Proverbs 12:15), and being responsible.

“Therefore, whoever hears and applies these words of mine will act like a wise individual who constructed his house on the rock. As well as the rain fell, the storms came, and the winds blew and battered that building, but it did not fall because it was established on the rock” (Matthew 7:24–25).