[Wisdom of Solomon] Mad at YouSample

Fire Buddies

When you get into a fight with someone, who you go to right after that fight says a lot about you. Do you go to someone who will feed your anger and fuel the flame? Or do you go to someone who will cool you down? Sometimes we need to talk to someone, but we must always be wise with whatever advice is given.

In this passage, Solomon had walked away to give some space and time, and she had been trying to find him. She asks the ”daughters of Jerusalem“ for help, but then they ask her, ”What’s the big deal about this guy?” They want to know what she sees in him. They don’t see it and are not convinced he deserves her. Solomon’s wife had many options, but she chose the high road. She could’ve fed their skepticism and spent the night bashing her husband; instead, she did something different. She praised him. She said Solomon was like no other. His head was of fine gold. His hair was as black as a raven. His eyes were like doves, which means they were peaceful. Solomon’s lips dripped with myrrh, which meant his speech was lovely. His physique was like no other. The man was chiseled and had been doing all the squats. When Solomon walked into the room, she described his presence as commanding and majestic as Lebanon’s cedars. She did not trash him. Instead, she remembered his sweetness and how desirable he was. Solomon was not just a lover but also a friend.

The point is this: when conflict arises, you must remember all the great things about your spouse. Your flesh may want to trash them, but as a believer, the Holy Spirit within you wants to remind you of all your spouse is. At the beginning of the conflict, we must choose the high road. We have to preach to ourselves how much we truly love our spouse. We can’t let some silly thing, pride, or preference get in the way of the sacrificial love we have been called to give them. We must be careful, especially at the beginning of a conflict, if we want to turn the situation around. We must remember that small bricks build big walls, and small leaks will sink great ships. Instead of tearing our spouse down, we must praise them instead. The enemy wants our marriage to suffer. Jesus wants to be glorified in our marriages. Choose the higher road.