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A Man’s Invitation to Recovery

If your husband fully and willingly undertakes these actions, there is a great reason to hope that it will lead to positive change for your hurting marriage. Be ready to share the following message with your husband. It’s written by Geremy Keeton, a highly qualified therapist at Focus on the Family who has counseled many men and couples who have struggled with issues similar to the ones you and your husband now face:

“As much as this devotional is for women, I want you to know that it’s not aimed at bashing or shaming you, but it does forthrightly explain what it takes to restore a marriage. You have an opportunity to step up and be the man you were created to be.

“Because I’ve come alongside husbands who’ve progressed through recovery and now enjoy the fruits of a transformed life and marriage, I can attest to the fact that it’s both hard work and worth it. There are few things more beautiful than a redeemed couple! Although this is likely the furthest thing from your view right now, you can have joy and freedom – for yourself and your marriage. Do you want that? It’s your turn to show it.

“Similarly, it’s your wife’s turn to face her own recovery and growth in a healthy way. She must respond to her pain in a self-respecting and measured manner. In large part, your actions over time determine how she can proceed and what she’ll decide about the marriage.

“I’m urging you to recover not only for her sake but also for yours. Your most prized possession as a man is your integrity. You can regain this. To do so, you must learn to act with sincere self-motivation and pursue personal integrity and wholeness.

“Come what may for your marriage, the path of personal health and integrity is always best. No one owns your integrity and walk with God but you. If you hope to live your life with your spouse, then embracing a strong self-motivation and internally driven hunger for healing is the most likely way to accomplish that.”

Next devotional in Aftershock series: Confronting Your Husband.

Previous devotional in Aftershock series: Why Does He Do What He Does?

For more help, visit focusonthefamily.com/tag/pornography; FocusontheFamily.com/Aftershock; or you can call the ministry’s Counseling Department for a free consultation at 855-771-HELP (4357).