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 Sex and Man

When God created the creatures, they were commanded to have sex to multiply. But what about Adam?

In Genesis 1:27 – 28 (KJV) we read:

“27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. 

28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.”

Sex was God’s first command to mankind. Again, to be fruitful and multiply meant to have sex and reproduce. Every creature including Adam and Eve were commanded to have sex.

Again, scripture says, “…and God blessed them.” Sex in the heart of God is a blessing. When you think of sex, what is the first word that comes to your mind? Be honest! Close your eyes, say the word ‘sex’ and what other words come to mind.

Are your words, fun, adventurous, fulfilling, or happy, like the word “blessing” would communicate? Do you feel blessed to have sex, to look forward to being with your spouse in that most intimate manner?

It could be you have other words come to your mind when you close your eyes, like duty, obligation, messy, not fun, or boring. It could be that you have been taught or come to believe you are to tolerate sex and not to celebrate sex or to see it as a “blessing” from God.

With many of my clients, I use the phrase “sexual garden” frequently. The sexual garden is what you and your spouse create your sexuality to be together. Our attitudes about sex and our sexual behaviors are carried into the bedroom and create a sexual environment for our spouse’s heart during all phases of sexuality. The garden you and your spouse create is the only sexual garden you and your spouse should partake of. Is your garden a blessing garden because of you, or less than a blessing? Both individuals are responsible for creating a space for the other to feel safe, heard, secure, loved, cherished and honored in their garden. Your spouse has to decide his or her attitude, but you get to decide your attitude toward sex. 

I believe in conforming my thoughts and attitudes to God’s Word. If God’s Word says sex is a blessing, then I want to believe and behave in such a way so that sex can be a blessing to myself and my spouse.