The Betrayed Wife: 6 Days of HealingSample

He Knows

Hebrews 4:15 says, "For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses."

Let's not forget; Jesus experienced betrayal as well. Two of His disciples —Judas and Peter — betrayed him. Jesus knows deception too.  He was wholly innocent, yet condemned to death by crucifixion.

God, the Father, knows betrayal. Adam and Eve betrayed him. The people of Israel spat in His face by committing adultery and idolatry again and again. The Old Testament, from Exodus through the prophets up until the New Testament, is a story of betrayal. A noble God led, provided for and loved his children, but He was still betrayed sexually, spiritually and every other way by His bride (the church) and His people.

He gave all of himself to His people, as you have given yourself to your husband. Yet His people chose other gods, sex, adultery, and idolatry; they rejected his heart repeatedly. Pages and pages of the Bible are filled with God warning them, correcting them, restoring them, and then the cycle would repeat.

It's important to recognize that God does know the feeling of betrayal, just like you. He sees that you didn't do anything to cause it. He knows your heart feels rejected. He is not surprised when you feel unwanted, unattractive, "less than." He had many feelings as well when he was betrayed. He knows the betrayal is not right in any way. He understands the anger and legitimate hurt you feel from betrayal because he has experienced it.

Here is my point. Go to God. He gets your pain. He will hear you and have compassion for your anger and concerns. He loves you so much. You are his favored daughter. He wants you to feel his love at this time. He wants to be there for you as you walk through the pain and storms from your husband's choices. He can be critically important to you at this time.

I have found that women who hold close to Him, read His Word, and listen to His voice can become stronger even in this healing season. I encourage you to trust the One who has experienced more betrayal than anyone else in history.