The 5 Love Languages For Him Reading PlanSample

If you or your wife is a foodie, chances are you’ve heard of “supertasters,” people whose sense of taste is so acute that they experience food differently than most other people do. For a supertaster, sugar is sweeter, sodium is saltier, fat is creamier, and bitterness is unbearable. Some supertasters can detect even the slightest differences in the fat content of milk and other foods.

The jury is out as to whether supertasting abilities are a blessing or a curse. On the plus side, with their enhanced taste buds, supertasters can isolate and enjoy the many ingredients that go into their favorite foods. Supertasters make excellent food critics. On the minus side, supertasters are repulsed by certain foods—including healthy dark green vegetables—that other people enjoy.

If your wife’s primary love language is Physical Touch, think of her as a “supertoucher.” She can sense love and affection—among other things—in the slightest arm squeeze or back caress. Physical contact that wouldn’t even register with most people has the potential to thrill her, change her mood, brighten her day, and—most importantly—make her feel loved and cared for.

The intensity of her tactile experience plays a large role in her relationships. The closer she is to someone, whether it’s a friend or family member, the more she enjoys Physical Touch with that person—a bear hug with her brother, a kiss on the cheek from her mother, an arm around her shoulder from her best friend. Likewise, the withholding of Physical Touch by those closest to her has the potential to cause her more pain and anxiety than most non-native speakers of her love language can imagine.

From her perspective, physical touch can make or break a relationship. It can communicate love or hate. A slap in the face is shocking to anyone, but it would be devastating to someone whose primary love language is Physical Touch. A tender hug communicates love and affection to most people, but it shouts love to those who speak Physical Touch.

The thought process of such a person goes like this: Whatever there is of me resides in my body. To touch my body is to touch me. To withdraw from my body is to distance yourself from me emotionally.

When that touch isn’t forthcoming, she takes it personally. She may lose self-esteem. She may worry about the state of her friendships and relationships. She may feel lonely, even when she’s surrounded by friends and loved ones.

As her husband, her primary source of love and affirmation, the responsibility for giving her the Physical Touch she desires is yours. Some might call that pressure. You can choose to look at it as a challenge—and an opportunity.