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Being Vulnerable to Find Community: Caleb’s Story

During my freshman year of college, I felt lonely and disconnected. I wasn’t sure how to make friends. I was quiet, anxious, and out of my comfort zone.

My parents encouraged me to find a Christian group on campus, so I finally went. Being vulnerable was difficult; I felt sick to my stomach simply taking that step. The couple of groups I first tried weren’t a good fit, but my family encouraged me to keep trying.

Finally, during my sophomore year, I found a group I liked. The guys were initially quiet, but I took what I could spiritually from the discussions. Soon, the dynamics changed, and we talked more and started hanging out, playing sports, having lunch, and serving our city.

My acquaintances eventually became friends, and I enjoyed being with others and making those connections. Being part of a group helped me with my loneliness, challenged me, and encouraged me to grow spiritually.

During my junior year of college, I went through a period of time where I felt disconnected from God and like a lukewarm Christian. Getting back on track was heavy on my heart. I took a long social media break and looked for a second guy group to help me refocus and have an accountability factor. I finally found one, and I especially liked having older leaders with experience from whom I could gain wisdom.

Jesus himself spent time alone, but he also spent time with groups. He sent the disciples out in pairs. We’re meant to be together and share in community. During trials, the community is there to support you. Now, I try to help younger guys who are where I once was. Putting yourself out there is not easy, but it’s definitely worth it.

Pray Over Your Story

Dear God, There are areas in my life where I can use clarity, confidence, and community. Help me to take a step of faith and find a community where I can grow and make friends. Help me reach out to others and invite them into my community. Remind me of the importance of growing together spiritually, gaining wisdom, and encouraging others.