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WHY GOD CREATED MARRIAGE – FOR MAGICAL CLIMAX (PART TWO)

In the book of Song of Songs, we read about an UNSELFISH HUSBAND we husbands must emulate. Husbands, in general, are not naturally inclined to talk lovingly or listen attentively to their wives, especially when it comes to the time for sex. They prefer to rush with the sex act without waiting to strike romance-laced conversations with their spouses, in most cases.

Here, in this book, we read of a different kind of husband. This husband says to his wife, even as both of them are gearing up to make love with each other, “Let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet!” (Song of Songs 2:14b). The same request he repeats in Song of Songs 8:13. Wow!

In the book of Song of Solomon, we read of an UNSELFISH WIFE. Wives are mostly wired to wait for their husbands to make the first move when it comes to sex. But in this book, which is of course inspired by the Holy Spirit, we read of the wife who makes the first move when it comes to sex at times.

She says to her husband, “Let us go early to the vineyards (before mother-in-law awakens, perhaps!) to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom – there I will give you my love!” (Song of Songs 7:12). The vineyard this lady is talking about here is her own body.

In poetic language she invites her husband to come and enjoy the vineyard – the vineyard of her body with all its intoxicating enticements! In Song of Songs 8:5, she further says, “Under the apple tree I aroused you!” She was the one who took the initiative in the act of sex here as well. Wow!

The husband that the book of Song of Solomon is talking about thinks, “Let me place my wife’s interests before me. Though I am not that excited about striking long romantic conversations, I will do just that because my wife likes it that way!”

The wife the book of Song of Solomon is talking about thinks, “Let me initiate sex with my husband, now and then, even though that’s not my cup of tea. That way I will show him that I love him more than I love myself!”

When both husbands and wives both become unselfish, their sex lives become sizzling and reaches the heights that God wanted it to reach! The SELFLESS nature of the husband the book of Song of Solomon is talking about is further illustrated when he ensures that his wife also reaches orgasm even as he does, by using his hands to that effect doing the sex act (that’s how some commentators interpret Song of Songs 2:6 and 8:3).

Paul only emphasizes the truths from Song of Solomon we just read about. Here is his counsel for married couples when it comes to their sex lives in the words of Eugene Peterson: “Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out.” (I Cor 7:2-4, The Message)

Isaac understood that God created marriage not just for the production of kids, but also for the enjoyment of sex. That’s why, when he was not exactly young, he was seen ‘fondling’ his wife (Gen. 26:8)