Grief From Loss- A 7- Day Devotionalنموونە

After the funeral and the calls become few and far in between, it seems as though you have nothing but time to think and reflect. I recall a few weeks when the fear began to set in. “What if I don’t get to see Bailey again?” Tears began to flow. I was reminded of this verse of scripture when David had just finished pleading with God to spare his son. After he found out the news that he was indeed dead, he stood up, washed his face, and changed clothes. I am sure his heart was still overcome with grief, but he was clinging to this hope, “I shall go to him.”

For those of us who have trusted Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior, there is hope in heaven. The Bible isn’t clear on how the reuniting process will fully look, but one thing is for sure, we will see our child again. In the early days of grief, when I was sinking deep into a pit of despair, I would constantly remind myself of this truth. Sometimes my thoughts and heart would retain it and other times not so much. Over time, this truth began to override my grief, and I felt my heart mending. It was hard for me to be around other babies and even harder to see women pregnant. I would think, “what I wouldn’t give to see Bailey.” Just a glimpse into heaven would do. One day I decided that since I can’t bring her back, I will change my perspective. Like David, I poured my heart out to God and begged that He give me the strength to go on, and He did. I washed my face, changed my grieving clothes to ones of thankfulness, and decided that I will trust God with her. Bailey was never fully mine. God entrusted me with her for a season. I stood on the fact that she is okay and where she is, is where I am living to go. Death is hard, but when you understand that earth is temporary for us all, you too will have the trust that both David and I share. Don’t allow grief to defeat you, and don’t isolate yourself from family and friends. You will get through the earth and finally to heaven where your child is. 

Practical tip: Don’t compare your grief journey to anyone else’s. While grieving, it is so hard not to focus or read about someone else’s journey and compare what you are going through with their process. This is never good. Your grief journey is unique to you. Trust God and trust the process He is working in your heart. Some days will be a lot harder than others and that is okay. Never forget that you too are just passing through this earthly realm, and you shall get to him or her in heaven. Rest your hope in eternity.