Noticing Others

I recently read an article in which the author explained that there are two types of people in the world: ones that walk into a room and say “Here I am” and others who walk in and say “There you are!”[1]  As I thought more about this, I began to consider what kind of person I am most often. If I’m really honest, I’m not always a “there you are” person. Many times my own insecurities, especially in a new setting or situation, can make me someone who waits for others to approach me. But honestly, I don’t like this about myself. I want to be a more welcoming, friendly person.

Even though my natural tendency is toward shyness, I can still work to be different, to be a more open and inviting person, and this is something I am beginning to encourage myself to do more often. I am pushing myself to be a “there you are” kind of person as I walk into a room, making others my focus in the way that I ask questions, listen, and take the time to get to know and be friendly to those I come in contact with. I am putting my phone away more often (I tend to take it out when I’m in slightly uncomfortable situations) and spending time with the person who is in front of me. I am making connections and actively befriending others, and it feels right.

God loved us enough to send his Son for us, and if he did that, then surely we can cross a room to show love for one another. As believers, we’ve been given so much that it should overflow to those around us. One of the easiest ways to love well is to start by seeing others, acknowledging them, and welcoming and befriending them. Whether we come by it naturally or not, we can all work to be a “there you are” kind of friend.

Today’s Act of Friendship: The next time you walk into a gathering of people, think about how you can be a “there you are” kind of friend instead of a “here I am” one.

[1]  Jill Savage, “There You Are!,” Proverbs 31 Ministries, April 8, 2016.