The Journey of the Prodigalنموونە

No Accountability 

When the disease of addiction starts to take over your thought processes and creates strongholds (beliefs you hold tight to that are in opposition to God’s Word) one of the first strongholds is a perversion. The addict believes recovery is all about them doing what they want to do, when they want to do it, and not allowing anybody to tell them what to do. In AA they talk about this stronghold idea as “self-will run riot.” It’s all about me and I will not have any accountability for my behavior, be it drinking, drugs, sex, relationships, money, food, or any other. 

The prodigal son moved himself far away from home to ensure no one he had known would know where he was or what he was doing. He didn’t want to deal with questions about who he was hanging around, how he was spending his money, or where he was all night.

Addicts in active addictions don’t want to face challenging questions about their marriage or commitment to their addiction. Addictions of all types are emotion-based, so reason or reasonable questions about their choice to be in a relationship with their addiction confuses the addict. To avoid this confusion, they just avoid any accountability or honesty with people who might want to bring this into their lives.