Blending A Family 40 day Devotionalنموونە

Emails, Texts, Letters, and Social Media

Several years ago we experienced a disconnect in our family where family members were not talking due to deep hurts. Lack of communication caused each person to misinterpret each other’s intentions. There was no face-to-face communication with each other to resolve the conflicts. Knowing the family did not want to talk, we decided to write a letter to our family in hopes of resolving the conflicts, and to correct the wrong assumptions to put misinterpretations to rest. 

We mailed the letter to all family members. To our surprise the letter was not received well. It actually made the situation worse. We thought our hearts’ intent to bring healing would be received well. In retrospect, we learned that people receive communication through the filters of the condition of their hearts. 

Studies have shown that the elements of communication are 7% words, with body language and tone of voice making up the remaining 93%. 

Our written word alone is not healthy for mending or building a relationship. Rather, it can create further damage to the relationship since the missing body language and tone of voice have to be assumed, and most people assume the worst. 

Yet, we often see people vent their personal struggles using written words on Facebook pages, emails and text messages. Facebook can be a cry for help, looking for value that they are lacking in their relationship, or a place to vent anger that can damage a relationship.

Many people see emails and texts as effective, but they often backfire due to incomplete communication cited above. Resolving conflict is best managed in personal one-on-one communication where listening to understand each other can prevail.

Suggestions:

Find a safe time and place to have a one-on-one conversation with your family member.

If they refuse, continue to pray God’s blessings and peace over them.

Avoid hastily blasting a text which can foster incorrect assumptions and generate negative emotions.

Our Prayer for you:

Lord Almighty, show this family the value in face-to-face communication. Help them pursue resolving conflict, edifying each other, and bringing healing in each heart. Thank You Lord, in Jesus’ Name!

 

Copyright 2019 Moe and Paige Becnel @ Blending A Family Ministry