Blending A Family 40 day Devotionalنموونە
The Blending Process
We believe and have experienced that with the right ingredients step families will blend. We named our non-profit ministry Blending a Family because by faith we chose to call things that are not as though they are. There is power in the words and actions we choose, choosing not to be served but to serve every person in our family. You may have heard it said that blenders have blades because blending is not easy, and the effort is challenging.
The definition of blend is “to mix together so that the things mixed cannot be separated or individually distinguished.” As a demonstration, when we make a smoothie we may blend milk, spinach, strawberries, blueberries, pineapple, banana, mango, and protein powder into a blender. The power in blending a smoothie is electricity and sharp steel blades. The protein powder adds healthy ingredients, creaminess, and sweet flavor to the smoothie.
In blending a family, each family member may have initial ingredients as hurts from past experiences, guilt, shame, resistance to the new family, fear, living with guarded hearts to not be hurt again, doubt, anger, unforgiveness, disconnectedness, wanting their old family back, broken dreams, and unmet expectations. The power needed to blend a family includes the husband and wife building their marriage first, and creating a home atmosphere of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, forgiveness, gentleness, and acceptance.
All people will gravitate to the place where they find acceptance and belonging. This reminds me of the home in my childhood neighborhood where all the neighboring children regularly gathered to hang out and play.
If the only love a child feels in the blended family is from their biological parent, that child will not feel a part of the new family, and will not find a healthy environment.
Suggestions:
Work together with your spouse to define the ingredients within your new family members. Write down the dynamics that each adult and child brings in the family.
What words and actions can you give to your family to create positive changes?
Our Prayer for You
Lord give this family the vision and steps to create a peaceful, kind, gentle home where every family member wants to belong. Help them resolve all conflicts through Your wisdom. Thank You Jesus for taking their cares and anxiety because You care so much for them. Amen!
Copyright 2019 Moe and Paige Becnel @ Blending A Family Ministry
About this Plan
Blending a Family 40-day Devotional written by Moe and Paige Becnel at Blending a Family Ministry is a resource for remarried families. The Becnel’s married in 1989 with 5 children, and were quickly overwhelmed with many issues exclusive to blended families. The plan discusses the cause of the issues many families face, and provides solutions found in God’s Word that fuel family growth. God is for you!
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