The Consequences Of Angerنموونە

Anger & Your Perspective

Angry people often put up a shield against those who have hurt or upset them. They may even go out of their way to avoid them entirely. Still others are reluctant to accept invitations or receive affection from people who have made them angry.

Do any of these actions describe how you deal with people you are angry with? Even if you don’t think you’re hurting yourself by doing one or more of the things listed above, you are. If you shield yourself from one person, it’s likely you will shield yourself from everyone. Those who harbor intense anger toward another person who has hurt or rejected them often make strong statements such as: “I will never trust anyone again in that area of my life” or “I’m going to protect myself and not get close to another person as long as I live.” Anger has an isolating effect and will interfere with your ability to form close, lasting, and intimate relationships.

Few people enjoy associating with angry people. The vast majority of us will choose a peaceful, joyful person over a dark, brooding one. This holds true for nearly all relationships, whether they are personal or professional, intimate or casual. As a result, angry people are increasingly alone and not included, invited, or involved. This isolating effect makes many angry people even angrier! They resent being rejected and seek to justify or express their anger all the more. The net result is an empty life. Over time, the angry person finds himself or herself intensely lonely.

It is in these situations that we must remember to not hold on to our anger or hold others accountable for something someone else did to us, no matter how deep the hurt or injury. Allowing God to heal our hurts and guarding against any bitterness that may result keeps us from allowing anger to taint our view of others and our perspective of the world around us.