Visionary Marriage: God's Call to Husbandsনমুনা

The first command to husbands is to love. The second command is to serve. Now we come to the point of it all, the central mission of a husband.

Why does God want you to love your wife? Why does He want you to serve her? The purpose is to make her holy. Men, have you ever wondered why God chose to bring your wife into your life? Here is your answer. God gave you your wife so you would do all in your power to encourage faith in her heart and to lead her toward becoming the woman that God created her to be. When we put these three commands together we get LOVE—SERVE—LEAD.

Do not miss the order! God’s Word is precise, and we need to pay attention to it. Men, what happens if you try to lead a woman without first loving her and serving her? The very thought of it sends shivers up the spine. If a man tries to lead a woman without the foundation of love and service, her heart will quickly fill with bitterness and resentment. God did not create women to be led by men who do not love them.

Men, if you seek to commit yourself to love your wife, to serve her, and to become the spiritual leader in your marriage, you should prepare yourself for major spiritual attack. Satan will throw everything at you to prevent you from being the man God calls you to be, and his attack on you will be strategic. Satan does not want you to love your wife, and He will try and prevent it. He does not want you to serve her, and he will do all he can to fill your heart with selfishness. However his number one attack will be to fill you with feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, and failure.

Men, consider the following three question

• Do you believe that praying and reading the Bible with your wife is important?
• Do you believe that God wants you to pray and read the Bible with your wife?
• Is praying with your wife easy or hard to do? (In other words, is it easy or hard to hold your wife’s hand, and say a few words to God?)

Most guys are going to answer yes, yes, and easy. Now for the fourth question:

• Do you struggle to pray faithfully and consistently with your wife?

Most of you may reply with another yes. This makes no sense! We believe that praying with our wives is important. We believe God wants us to do it, and we know it is physically easy to do. Despite all that, men frequently struggle to pray faithfully with their wives.

Why is Satan so desperate to prevent you from taking any role of spiritual leadership in our marriage? Because once that happens, your family begins to function with transformational spiritual power! Your marriage and your home become a threat to Satan and a dynamic ministry tool in the hands of God. Praying together will not be an instant fix for your marriage, but as you grow together in prayer you will increasingly experience Christ as the anchor for your souls.

• How mature is your spiritual leadership for your wife? What would be your next step to increase your time in prayer and Scripture reading together?

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