The Art of Making Disciplesনমুনা

Never Leave a Man Behind

In the story of the woman at the well, Jesus offers one of the most profound teachings about making disciples. It’s a simple yet powerful reminder that discipleship is about meeting people where they are and walking with them through their journey.

Jesus was always mindful of his audience, and in this encounter, we see how he perfectly demonstrates the principle of "never leaving them behind." When he meets the Samaritan woman, he doesn't approach her with a heavy theological lecture or a list of commands to follow. Instead, Jesus meets her with love, grace, and a genuine connection. This is where trust begins—a relationship is formed, and through this bond, growth starts.

This moment is a key teaching for us in making disciples. Before we can truly partner with the Holy Spirit to empower someone’s growth, we must first earn their trust. Trust isn’t something we can demand or expect immediately; it’s something we must build. People won’t take us seriously until they can trust us.

And here's a reality check: the “do as I say, not as I do” approach rarely works. Our actions must align with our words. We can’t expect others to follow if we’re not living in a way that reflects the values we teach. In the same way, Jesus demonstrated integrity and love through his actions, we must lead by example. The Great Commission tells us to teach, but teaching isn’t about issuing demands or giving orders; it’s about fostering a trusting relationship where growth can happen naturally.

As we make disciples, we must remember we’re not called to leave anyone behind. It’s not enough to just have good intentions or talk about discipleship. We must demonstrate through our actions that we’re committed to walking alongside others, no matter where they are in their journey. This principle is essential, especially when we think about those who are just starting their spiritual walk.

To illustrate, let’s think of a running metaphor. What should the first run look like if you're an experienced runner and invite someone who’s never run before—or hasn’t in a long time? This person is stepping out of their comfort zone, and that’s a victory in itself. As the leader, you must pace yourself to meet them where they are. If you push them too hard too soon, leaving them behind in the dust, their chances of returning are slim. Discipleship is no different. It’s about meeting people where they are and not leaving them behind.

We must humble ourselves and recognize that we are all on unique journeys. Our paths don’t look the same, and we can’t assume that someone will be ready to take a leap while still learning to take small steps. As others helped us along our journeys, we must do the same for those we’re discipling. How we lead can determine whether someone takes their next step forward, takes a step backward, or veers off course entirely.

In Christ’s way, we find a rhythm that leads people on target, like a magnetic pull. It’s not about forcing or rushing others but gently guiding them with love and patience.

There’s always the temptation to forget where we came from, but we must resist it. Remembering our struggles and those who helped us along the way allows us to lead with empathy and compassion. So, as you walk with others in their discipleship journey, continue to build the relationship, celebrate their victories, and never leave them behind.