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Forgiven to Forgive: The Path to a Bitterness-Free Life

Bitterness can take root in our hearts, subtly influencing our thoughts and actions, and distancing us from the freedom God desires for us. But Scripture offers a clear path to freedom—one rooted in forgiveness and the life we’ve been given in Christ. A key lesson comes from Peter’s conversation with Jesus in Matthew 18. Peter asks, “How many times should I forgive my brother? As many as seven times?” Jesus replies, “Not seven times, but seventy times seven,” illustrating that forgiveness is not a one-time act but a continual posture of the heart.

Jesus follows this answer with a parable of a king settling accounts with his servants. One servant, who owed an impossible debt, was forgiven completely by the king. But this same servant, when faced with a fellow servant who owed him a small amount, showed no mercy. He demanded repayment and even had the man imprisoned. The king, upon hearing this, was furious. He called the unforgiving servant “wicked” and reinstated his debt. Jesus concludes with: “So also my Heavenly Father will do to every one of you if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.”

Why does Jesus respond to Peter’s question with this story? He wants us to grasp the magnitude of what we have been forgiven. When we truly understand the enormity of our own forgiveness, there is no debt so large that we cannot forgive others. In Christ, our immense debt of sin has been wiped away, compelling us to extend the same mercy to those who wrong us.

This realization is foundational to overcoming bitterness. Forgiveness is evidence of a heart transformed by the gospel. Our kindness, compassion, and willingness to forgive reveal that we’ve internalized the grace we’ve received.

Colossians 3 echoes this call, reminding believers to put to death what is earthly within us and to “put on” the qualities of the new self—compassion, kindness, humility, and patience. Forgiveness is not optional; it’s a command that aligns us with the character of Christ.

So, how do we live out this forgiveness practically? It begins by acknowledging any bitterness in our hearts. If God is bringing to mind a person or situation where forgiveness is lacking, that’s an opportunity for surrender. Recognize that holding onto bitterness not only grieves the Holy Spirit but also keeps you from experiencing the full joy of your new life in Christ.

Now, consider who in your life you need to forgive. Is there someone whose debt you’ve been holding onto? Pray for the strength to release them. Reflect on the mercy God has shown you, and let that soften your heart. Choose today to replace bitterness with kindness.