Forgiveness in Your Relationships

As I walk through the streets or read the headlines, I often come across words like “More Justice,” “More Tolerance,” or “More Respect.” These are powerful ideals, but what can you actually do to make our world more just, tolerant, and respectful? You might think the key is following the principle of “one good deed every day.” But if we’re honest, it’s challenging to always do the right thing. Each of us, including you and those around you, makes mistakes, and every wrong seems to demand some form of justice. But how do we avoid an endless cycle of accusations?

The Bible understands this dilemma. It teaches us that no one lives a flawless life, and thus none of us is truly suited to judge others. This doesn’t mean there should be no human judges, but only a completely perfect judge can truly assess how well someone has lived. The Bible describes God as this Judge—on one hand, as the Creator, who is perfectly capable of judging, and on the other, as Jesus Christ, who died on the cross for our wrongdoings (Matthew 26:28).

But what about the victims? How can they find healing? The Bible also offers an answer here: In forgiveness, both victims and wrongdoers find peace. Jesus himself, while suffering on the cross, prayed for those who wronged him: “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing!” (Luke 23:34). These words show us that forgiveness is not only important for the wrongdoer but also for the victim. When we forgive those who have wronged us, we free ourselves from the burden of needing to become their judge. This mindset helps us view our flawed relationships from a different perspective—one of forgiveness and the peace that God grants us.

Jesus teaches us that even in moments of great pain, it’s important to seek forgiveness for those who have hurt us. This request helps keep us from becoming trapped in bitterness and blame, granting us the freedom to move forward. By practicing forgiveness, we experience divine grace that unites and renews us all. This perspective can help heal our relationships and bring us inner peace.

Next Step: “But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins" (Matthew 6:15). Where are you willing to offer forgiveness to others’ seemingly unforgivable mistakes against you?