Grace Abounds: Hope and Healing From Sexual Abuseনমুনা

How do you begin to set boundaries when sexual trauma violates the core of who you are? For a long time, I was overwhelmed and frustrated that I did not know the answer. Have you felt similarly?

One of my first steps to establishing healthy boundaries was learning my identity in Christ. Understanding my worthiness as God's daughter gave me the courage to set and maintain healthy limits in relationships. I feared setting clear expectations would provoke division among family and friends. However, my firm no was deflecting unhealthy behaviors and allowed for rebuilding trust with God, others, and myself.

Not everyone understood or supported my changes. Some had grown accustomed to old behaviors and perspectives, and creating new limits sparked conflict. People were hurtful, and I lost some relationships. This point in establishing boundaries was hard to walk through, but I was not alone! Deuteronomy 31:8 says, "The LORD himself goes in front of you. He will always be with you, to help you. He will never leave you. So do not be afraid. Be brave!"

I witnessed God’s remarkable faithfulness in restoring some relationships. He allowed separation, at times, to develop Godly understanding, love, and forgiveness among us. With some of those relationships, God provided reconciliation; but with others, He did not— and may never. Only God knew which relationships were good for me, and I trusted Him to decide.

With time, God may restore, rebirth, and reconcile your relationships. Reflect on the previous devotional on identity until the scripture captures your heart. Remember the LORD's love for you is everlasting (Jeremiah 31:3), and you are redeemed (Psalm 107:2). Once you realize who you are, establishing newfound boundaries allows your heart the space to take the necessary time to heal. This transformation is a glorious demonstration of how God redeems your ashes for a crown of beauty!

Dear Heavenly Father,

Thank You for being LORD and friend as survivors navigate the healing process. Strengthen the woman who wants to cry and give up with Your Spirit. When the pain of healing has begun, may she persevere with obedience. Help her establish healthy boundaries and to maintain them during a conflict. Give her wisdom to navigate the coming obstacles. You are our Deliverer and Banner of Victory! In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.