[Wisdom of Solomon] Protecting Your Marriageনমুনা

How To Be Wrong

Have you ever been wrong? For some, I know it’s rare, but you live long enough, and you figure out you don’t know as much as you thought, that you didn’t realize that that "something worked" the way it does and that there is always someone who is more intelligent than you. Then, you either feel foolish, embarrassed, or defensive.

In marriage, being wrong seems just to hit differently. Your pride hurts, and you feel less than others, but you won’t admit it due to your pride. Everything and everyone else is to blame, not you. I’m not saying what you have gone through was all your fault, but we all play a part in what takes place in our marriage. Whether it happened due to a lack of love, or a lack of communication-, we are all fallen creatures redeemed through the blood of Christ.

By trusting Jesus, we have a new nature and God’s Spirit dwells within us. So, when the Holy Spirit convicts us of a sin we committed, we respond differently. Sure, we may want to justify the sin, but those who love the Lord want to make amends. We want to accept where we missed the mark. That’s what sin is, missing the mark. We want to know where we didn’t communicate well or love well so that we don’t do that again. We want to do anything and everything to show our love for our spouses, in the same way, Jesus gave His life to show His love for us. We, too, want to die to ourselves.

Here’s the good news, though. The Lord disciplines those He loves. When He corrects us, He loves us and wants what’s best for us. He doesn’t want to leave us where we are but intends to make us more and more like His Son Jesus. God is sanctifying each of every day. The Bible even talks about how He prunes us so we can bear more fruit. That’s the goal. We want to produce fruit in our lives and marriages that show we love one another and love Him, and He loves us. So, embrace those moments of correction, be okay with being wrong, be willing to learn, and trust that the Lord isn’t done with you.

Thought for today: Where have you missed the mark and need to confess it and make amends? Take some time today and thank the Lord for never giving up on you.