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Introducing Your Children

Letting the Lord tell you when it's time to introduce your children to your potential spouse is wise. The Bible says in Proverbs 2 that the Lord gives wisdom freely to those who diligently ask and seek Him. Psalm 119 also tells us God's Word is a light to our path. Pray. Ask God for wisdom to know when to introduce your children to your potential spouse. God's timing is always perfect.

Suggestions

Here's a step-by-step plan you can use when it's time to introduce your children to your potential spouse.

1. Remember your role. Each of you should remain the disciplinarian of your biological children. If your potential spouse has children, your role with them is similar to being an aunt, uncle, or babysitter.
2. Both of you should plan a short event to make introductions. The event will depend on the age of the children. Choose something fun for all the children involved.
3. Keep the time together short. You don't need a full day of activity. One or two hours will be enough.
4. Remember, children will be nervous at this event. Be flexible. That means you should go with what your children want to do as the time together unfolds during the event. If your children become uncomfortable or ask to do something else instead, go with what they want.
5. After the event, it's best not to ask your children many questions. Quizzing your children will most likely make them feel pressured, and you won't glean much information.
6. Repeat. As you're around each other's children more, you can extend the time of each event.

Prayer

Lord, I ask you today to guide my steps. Is it time to introduce my children? What I think does not measure up to what you know. Please help me to stay on your path. I want your will for all of us. Your word says if we ask for wisdom, you will freely give it. I ask for your insight on timing, moving forward with Your plan, and helping me be a loving partner in all of this. Jesus, allow me to stay open to you and your voice, will, and correction. I am listening for your guidance. Help my heart stay tender and open. Help my eyes see the things right before me and the unseen. In Jesus' name, amen.