Love Letters for Singlesনমুনা

FINDING YOUR WAY

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye. Psalm 32:8 (NKJV)

I will always remember a friend of mine for her simple yet timely words of wisdom to me while I was single: 'guys will come around, but be careful and prayerful. Ask God for discernment'. 1 Peter 5:8 (NKJV) says, 'Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour'. The devil can take advantage of our carelessness and ignorance. This can come in different forms: lack of a quality prayer life; lack of godly mentors who you are accountable to; worldly ideologies of dating and marriage, and more. There are many ways the enemy can set traps for us, because He knows the importance of who we choose to marry! So we must always stay vigilant. For example, it’s one thing to be happy when someone comes along and ticks all your boxes, but do we really seek God before getting emotionally involved with that person? I am not talking about the two-minutes prayer to fulfil all righteousness, but diligently and consistently asking God for direction and guidance.

The journey doesn't end once you have met someone. It's actually the beginning! Who you marry is said to be the second most important decision you make in life, after giving your life to Christ. It is supposed to be a life-long decision, therefore not one to be treated lightly. Diligence and discernment can't be overstressed when it comes to dating/courting. Similarly, don't fall for the trap of settling - trust God for the best and don't settle. The enemy is seeking whom he may devour, so you must be alert. This does not mean being afraid or suspicious of everyone who comes your way; but more than ever, your reliance on God and His wisdom should precede any decision.

Luke 18:1 says that men should always pray and never give up. Our communion with God gives us guidance and direction. So even when you feel convinced that God has led you to a particular relationship, stay in fellowship with Him so that you can continue to receive from Him. God can even speak to you about things that you need to do or pray about regarding your future spouse. I have found myself praying in the spirit about things that naturally I wouldn't have thought of or known to pray about. Take everything to God in prayer, invite the Holy Spirit into your prayer time, and let Him know that you are always ready to listen to Him. I have learnt that nothing and no-one should ever take the place of our constant communion with God. Proverbs 14:12 says, "There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death." At every stage and at every moment, we need to see our need for God. We cannot rely solely on ourselves when it comes to choosing a spouse. Thank God for the peace He gives us when we commit our ways to Him and lean on Him (Read AMPC version of Isaiah 26:3). If you need peace about the state of your current relationship status, or peace about the decision you have or are about to make, you need to include God at every stage, keeping your mind on Him!

JOURNAL:

Ask yourself these questions: are you able to discern things accurately? Are you accountable to others who are in spiritual authority over you? Do you both have the same conviction of purpose and commitment to God and to one another?

Commit every detail about your relationship or your desired relationship to God. Someone said that your prayers water the grounds you will walk on. The best time to commit your ways to the Lord, is before stepping forward, or making any decisions. Be still in God's presence and receive help from the Holy Spirit, as you cultivate His presence in everything you do.