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What if I never find the person God has for me?

Do you find yourself questioning whether you will meet the person God has for you? If you have, don’t tolerate that thought. That thought comes from fear and nothing out of fear comes from God. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline” (NIV). 

The only way to overcome fear is by replacing our fears with God’s truth. The fact that we are scared that God doesn’t know what we need and won’t give us what we need is a false fear. If that thought has been replaying in your mind, now is the time to stop that thought and throw it away. 

When I finally had the courage to let my boyfriend go, the first couple of months were one of the hardest months of my life. Fear kept taunting my mind.

“What if I never find anyone better than him? What if I end up miserable?” I asked myself, “Am I really ready to just let go of a three-year investment I made with someone?”

Some nights I would just lie in bed and replay the sweet memories we had made over those three years. I felt horrible afterward. Finally, I realized I was in such a bad condition because fear was on my replay.

Just as music has the power to affect our emotions, so do our thoughts. That is why Paul reminds us, “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” (Philippians 4:8 NIV).

When we choose to think about praiseworthy thoughts—things that are lovely and pure—we will find ourselves full of joy and peace. We can’t change our circumstances, but we can choose to change our perspective.

If we let fear reign in our minds, we will be left with a fearful heart. If we choose to let God’s truth reign in our minds, we will find our hearts strengthened and transformed into the image of God.

This is the season to pick back up the convictions the Holy Spirit laid upon your heart. Conviction is meant to draw us back to the will of God. We must have the heart that only wants God’s will because only His will is good for us.

What truths have you laid hidden away from your life?

Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will (NIV).

We must renew our minds with God’s truth. Instead of entertaining our own fears, let’s entertain the truth that God is always faithful and always has the best in store for us. He will lead you to the right relationship at the right time. 

We must choose where we want to build the foundation of our lives. We can choose to rely on our unstable emotions and deceitful hearts, or on a God who is always true and faithful. 

Luke 1:37 says, “For the word of God will never fail” (NLT).

If God’s word never fails, then that means verses like this one stand true: “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4 ESV).

Delighting in God means His desires become our desires. As we delight in God, He will give us the desires of our hearts and we can be sure that our desires will not pull us away from God. It’s when we don’t delight in God that we end up seeking other things that pull us away from God.

If we profess the Bible to be true, then we need to start doing what the Bible says to do. The enemy is good at planting fears in our minds, but we must replace every fear with God’s promises and truth.

God only has the best for us, and He won’t give us anything less. Don’t expect the worst to come from what God is asking you to do. Believe that the best will come from doing what God asks you to do.

We don’t have to be afraid that God won’t come through with His promises. He always comes through, and He always gives us exceedingly above all that we could ever ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20).

God came through for me and sent me my husband, who fits perfectly into the calling that God has for my life. We will enjoy marriage more as we embrace singleness and wait for the right one from God. Our single season is meant to prepare us to make the most of our married life as we learn to make Jesus the foundation of our lives. 

If God came through for me, He will also come through for you.