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Love is Restoration

Every relationship has some kind of pain in its past. We all have elements of hurt and sometimes it's because of direct and sometimes because of indirect actions from or towards my spouse. 

In some cases, there may be some serious mistakes that could become a mountain between us. The very first realization that we should have is of our own imperfection. I need to be reminded that I make mistakes too. I also need forgiveness and that is why I forgive today, because I know tomorrow, I will need you to forgive me.

Ephesians 4:32 says “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” 

It is the revelation that forgiving is a practical action. It is choosing to see your value as more important than the mistakes that you have made. It is a focus decision. Where will I focus? I know that I make mistakes and you have made mistakes, but you are so valuable, that I want to come alongside and see restoration in this relationship.

Healing could take more time than we expected it would take, but we do get some wisdom from Romans 12:21 where it says: "do not be overcome by evil. You overcome evil with good." It is the law of replacement. It is the law of restoration, the process of making positive deposits until the pain of the mistake is properly healed. I have made a mistake and it hurt you deeply and now I have to make deposit, after deposit. Deposits of trust and care and love until that pain is gone or "replaced", as it were. 

Discussion: A very important discussion point between us today is taking the time and opportunity to ask for the forgiveness that is necessary and to start with this restoration process.

Let us start this with a prayer:

Prayer: Lord Jesus thank you that you have paid the price on the cross for restoration and for our healing and we pray that our past mistakes will make way for a wonderful, loving future together. We thank you that you will make us whole again. Amen.