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 Sex and Safety

Sex is a beautiful gift from God; however, this gift has a context and that context by His design is the marriage covenant. Sex before marriage or outside of marriage can create all kinds of havoc on all people involved. There is grace and healing God can provide for those who don’t protect themselves or their marriage; however, it is best to protect our marriage.  

Here I want to be very practical in protecting our marriage by talking about something that is greatly impacting the church. Everyone is wise to have a porn blocker on all their devices. Porn has devastated more Christian marriages than probably any other single factor since the internet was developed. 

Secondly, have media boundaries; this includes what rating of show we watch when we watch secular entertainment and also a total hours a week of media of all types (Television, cellphone, movies, etc…) create a media budget and stick to it. If you are burning tens of hours a week on media, you are not having the quality time to create a great sex life.

Social media also needs to be protected. There is no need to have individual social media accounts, to be friends with people you never met in mixed gender chats, games, activities, etc. Have agreed boundaries on social media and when and how long to be giving your life to these media forms weekly. 

Protect yourself from others as well. Have an agreed upon protocol for opposite sex texting, emailing, chatting, gaming, etc. This electronic world has been the breeding ground for secret relationships that can become lethal to a marriage.

I tell women all the time, men protect what they love. It’s important that the marriage, not media, is protected by both of you to keep your marriage safe and your sexuality sacred.

Jesus prayed, “…not that you take them out of the world, but that you protect them from the evil one.” We must be wise in our modern culture to protect our hearts and our marriage from culture sneaking in and taking up time and space in our marriage. A good marriage and a great sex life is a result of time together being connected.