Living Changed: After Divorceনমুনা

Purpose

When you’re in the middle of something painful, it rarely makes sense because you can’t yet see the outcome. You can’t see how this could ever be used for good. But God promises us He’s working all things for our good. All things. Yes, even this. 

When my divorce was finalized, I felt sad but hopeful. Even though I was uncertain of my future, I knew I could be certain that God had a plan for my life and would use my divorce to bring about something good. 

After a while, I started thinking about how I might use the gifts and passions God has given me to help other women who were going through divorce. I thought about how I wouldn’t have been able to get through my divorce without the women who loved me and encouraged me in that time. They made sure I ate, they slept over to keep me company, they prayed over me, and they took my calls at any time. God knew I needed that community of women around me and placed them in my life at just the right time. I wanted to give that to others.

It wasn’t easy, but I started a small group. I had to come up with curriculum, keep meeting through the weeks when only one woman showed up, and help the single moms figure out childcare. Harder still, I had to keep our group from spiraling into negativity, encourage them without invalidating their feelings, and learn how to keep from carrying their burdens home with me. And it was worth every bit of it. The women God brought together in that group needed each other and will always have a close bond.

Looking back on that group gives me joy. Out of something awful and painful, God brought beauty and friendship. You might not see it yet, but He stands ready to do the same in your life. 

God cares for you so deeply that He refuses to leave you drowning in your sadness. Let Him draw you out of your pain by giving it a purpose. Ask Him what He wants to do in you and through you. Maybe He wants you to comfort someone in your life just by sharing your story. Or maybe He’s nudging you to share your story in a blog or social media post, write a book, or start a ministry. 

Be vigilant, listen for His prompting, and follow His lead. No act of obedience is too small or insignificant. You could be exactly what someone needs in the hardest moment of their life.

God, thank you for using my pain for good. Thank you for giving me a purpose and for using me to glorify your name. Make me aware of your promptings and help me to clearly understand your direction so I can be a vessel for your good works. Help me to turn my focus from myself to your people who need help. Above all else, I want to do your will and please you. Thank you for your guidance and love. In Jesus’ precious name, Amen.