Safety Gates for Marriageনমুনা

Attitude

In your marriage, the first thing you, as a partner, may need to adjust is your attitude. Start with an honest assessment of yourself. Step back and consider your own attitude before you start trying to change your spouse—then you will be heading in the right direction.  

Athletes can’t win the prize if they don’t follow the rules; so too in marriage, we have to ‘set rules’ and boundaries for growth.

In adjusting our attitude, we need to be honest about how we see ourselves. This has an impact on our marriage. When we struggle with low self-esteem, it is a thinking disorder in that we view ourselves as inadequate or incompetent. Self-esteem is based on a system of pictures and feelings you have put together about yourself, including both mental and emotional pictures and feelings.  

“As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” (Prov. 23:7 KJV)

The way you feel and see yourself, is how you will behave and act in your marriage. When you step into a trap of low self-esteem, your spouse will constantly have to convince you that you are loved, accepted and enough. This causes your relationship to be one-sided and the one who is always trying to convince you becomes worn down.

In your marriage you need to instill healthy habits for a healthy marriage; therefore it is important to make decisions together on what would be best for each situation. When your marriage needs healing, work through the conflict together.

Deep issues must be dealt with. Keep working together at it until you have complete victory.