Being Real In Our Marriagesনমুনা

It’s about my responsibility and not my spouse’s 

“God created man in His own image, male and female He created them equal”. The Bible has an order of Christ, husband and wife. God wants an individual relationship with the husband and wife separately. This relationship supersedes the relationship between husband and wife. 

There are valuable lessons to learn from the life of Abigail. Her intelligent and thoughtful actions protected her family from danger and her community. Abigail acted on her own. She must have been a respected and an intelligent, approachable woman. A servant was able to discuss with her the dangers the community faced, because of her husband’s action. Abigail acted quickly to save the situation. She was not in haste to take this issue up with her husband but waited for the right time. Lastly the Bible mentions about Abigail only telling Nabal, “…when Nabal was sober, his wife told him all these things, ….”. There is no emotion mentioned… unlike other places in the passage where emotions were described. As women we need to control our emotions and give careful thought to what we tell our husbands.

In the life of Abraham we see that he took Hagar as his concubine on Sarah’s insistence. A few years later when Sarah asked Abraham to send Hagar away, God told Abraham , “Listen to whatever Sarah tells you, because ….”. Here we see God endorsing Sarah. 

God gave separate punishments for Adam and Eve. The husband and wife, though they are one are individually responsible for their actions before God. Let not our actions be like Ananias and Saphira who were found to be conspiring together to test the Spirit of the Lord.

On the day of judgement, it is each man to himself and not as a family. 

Christian life is an unique relationship with God. It is good to have Godly Bible-based guidelines. We need to be careful that these guidelines do not become rules which would enslave us. Many marriages are in bondage of the rules which take away the joy and freedom God has given in our marriages. 

Let not our individual compromises in our marriage make us uncomfortable on the day of judgement.