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When You’re Newlyweds: Gentleness
When you feel wounded by your spouse, it sure is hard to manage the adrenaline rush. Who can resist “payback time”? Who can resist “teaching her a lesson”? If you catch yourself thinking (or saying) things like this, realize that very little teaching and learning happen with anger.
You can’t control your partner’s mouth. But you can control yours. Ready for wedding garment #4? “As God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with . . . gentleness” (Colossians 3:12).
Gentleness means that you will not allow stress in the relationship to escalate. It takes two to fight. You will not allow a misunderstanding to morph into sharp words. You will not let sharp words morph into an argument, an argument into a fight, or a fight into something physical.
Gentleness means that the level of stress stops right here. It means clamping your lips shut so that angry things can’t get out. It means keeping your voice soft. It means asking questions of clarification, assuming that your partner couldn’t have meant anything so hurtful. It means taking a walk around the block before blurting things you will regret later.
When you feel wounded by your spouse, it sure is hard to manage the adrenaline rush. Who can resist “payback time”? Who can resist “teaching her a lesson”? If you catch yourself thinking (or saying) things like this, realize that very little teaching and learning happen with anger.
You can’t control your partner’s mouth. But you can control yours. Ready for wedding garment #4? “As God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with . . . gentleness” (Colossians 3:12).
Gentleness means that you will not allow stress in the relationship to escalate. It takes two to fight. You will not allow a misunderstanding to morph into sharp words. You will not let sharp words morph into an argument, an argument into a fight, or a fight into something physical.
Gentleness means that the level of stress stops right here. It means clamping your lips shut so that angry things can’t get out. It means keeping your voice soft. It means asking questions of clarification, assuming that your partner couldn’t have meant anything so hurtful. It means taking a walk around the block before blurting things you will regret later.
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Marriage is an amazing gift from God, but it is also hard. Many marriages struggle - partners either don’t know how to treat each other or they know and don't want to change. These devotions, one for each day of your month, are for married people, for those who hope to be married, and for all of you who used to be married. Re-listen to God's words about this sacred institution and rededicate your ways to be more like his ways.
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