The Treasure I Married: A 3-Day Marriage Planናሙና

The Greatest Gift

Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap . . . yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds!

Luke 12:24

Although the battle for healthy self‐confidence is most often fought by women, many men also struggle with the issue. Unlike a woman, a man derives his sense of worth primarily from the reputation he earns in his job or profession. He draws emotional satisfaction from achieving in business, becoming financially independent, developing a highly respected skill, being the “boss,” or being loved and appreciated by his patients, clients, or business associates. When his career fails, however, look out. His confidence often falters, and he becomes vulnerable. Depression, anger, and withdrawal are just some of his potential responses.

Wives, here’s something to remember: More than anything, your man needs your respect. Compliment him on the qualities you most admire in him. Avoid comments that debase or embarrass him—especially in the eyes of others. As much as is reasonably possible, understand and support his career, but also create such an affirming atmosphere at home that he will be happy to leave career concerns at the office.

The better you understand your differences, the more you’ll appreciate the gift that is your mate.

Just between us . . .

• (wife) What achievement are you proudest of? (wife)

• Are you satisfied with the current state of your career?

• (wife) How can I help you with your career?

• (wife) How can I show more respect for you and what you do?

(wife) Father, thank You for my husband—for the energy, skills, and ambitions you’ve placed in him. Help him to know that You love him no matter how he performs, and please help me show him the honor and respect I feel. Amen.

Excerpted from Night Light for Couples, used with permission.

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Eph. 5:33, ESV)

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct . . . but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. (1 Pet. 3:1-2, 4, ESV)

“Embrace the Command to Love and Respect” (This article by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is available on our website.)