Finding the Freedom to Simply Be

Even though my kids are adults now and I’ve come a long way, I still wrestle with false messages. I’m a mom through and through, so I still have that yearning to love and guide them in the best way I can, no matter their age. From this common place, I want to help us all continue breaking free from the endless list of “shoulds” that modern motherhood demands. There’s always a corner of our heart where fear, anger, comparison, insecurity, or control can become overwhelming. When you find yourself in those tough spots, don’t lose hope. You already possess the keys: the grace and love of Christ that equips you to keep dismantling your internal false images and replace them with liberating truths and, ultimately, His peace. “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” (John 14:27)

It turns out that, as a daughter of Christ, you don’t need to be a supermom. Just being a mom is enough. You are more than enough because you are in Him, and He is more than enough.

In the end, there is no unattainable standard to meet. No instant solutions to discover. No hidden formulas to unravel. You have the freedom to simply be who God has uniquely made you to be. Keep bringing your authentic self into your family life, all the while finding peace in God’s unwavering love and abundant care for you and your loved ones.

You don’t have to wait for perfection, Mom. Today—right now—you can bless the world with exactly who God created you to be when He knitted you together in your mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13–14). Then, you are free to allow these truths and this grace to flow into your relationship with your children, lovingly leading them into embracing and living out their own true identities, just as God intended.

God, thank You that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Help me to continually dismantle my internal false messages and replace them with Your grace, which allows me to just be. Amen.

Was this plan helpful? We adapted this plan from The Enneagram for Moms: See the True Colors of Yourself and Your Children as God Intends by Beth McCord. Check it out for more.