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When Family Hurts Us: Veronika's Story

I was born in Ukraine and had a very difficult childhood. My father left when I was young, and my mom made it clear that I reminded her of him and, therefore, disliked me as well. My mom’s pain was constantly put on me; she yelled, called me names, and physically abused me.

As I grew, I often questioned myself, wondering what I did wrong or what was wrong with me. I felt worthless, unloved, resentful, and lonely, and I wanted to fix myself so she would love me. As a young adult, I didn't know what to do to fill this hole.

When I was nineteen, the war in Ukraine began, and my mom and I moved to America. However, she soon stopped communicating with me, and I was broken. I didn’t understand how a parent could do this.

I started attending church, praying, seeking healing and guidance, and asking God to bring people into my life, such as friends. I met a woman who served as a young adult leader, and she became my mentor. I grew in my faith and learned I needed to work on forgiving my family—not because they deserved it, but for me; I needed to forgive to heal and move forward because God asked me to since he forgave me.

Eventually, I was able to pray for my mom that someday she would heal her relationship with God and me. That still hasn't happened, but I thank God for what he’s done in my life and for showing me my purpose. It’s clear that when I pray with an open heart, God gives me hope and even more than I prayed for.

It’s extremely difficult to be a child without loving parents, but I know God loves me and is my father. It’s taken time, and I’m still on this journey, but I’ve learned I’m not alone.

You’re not alone, either. Know that every word and action done to you is not because of you. Each person is responsible for their actions. Pray for God to fill you with his love and peace. Ask him to bring positive, Godly people into your life.

If you feel unloved because of how others have treated you — or for any reason — you’re not alone. I understand, and so do many others. God made you wonderfully, he's with you always, and you are worthy.

Pray Over Your Story

Dear God, Please continue to heal me from the family hurt in my life. Help me understand how much you love me and how worthy I am. I pray you’ll bring Godly people into my life who will surround me and provide a community. Give me wisdom and help me forgive my family for the hurt they inflicted so that I can move forward. Thank you for your promise that you will never leave me and that you have a purpose for my life.