Love Letters for Singlesናሙና

THE PERSON OF YOUR DREAMS

"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope." Jeremiah 29:11 (NKJV)

I believe that God isn't against us having a list of what we want in our future spouse! To a certain extent, I believe it's more productive to have a good idea of what we are looking for when it comes to marriage. But we need to be conscious of what could be influencing our choices, our taste,  our values, etc., as these will affect our preferences and choices.  If we are not inspired or surrounded by godly couples who have healthy and positive marriages, the likelihood of seeking or being attracted to godly spouses (above other attributes) is small.

We need to get real with ourselves about the items on our 'list', be it a physical list or a mental one. Do these items on our list contribute towards a healthy, flourishing and godly marriage? What are we doing to be the people that our future spouses are also praying for? Are we compromising on certain values? Are we surrounding ourselves with healthy, positive, godly circles of people? It's time to get real with God and with our expectations and ideals.

God wants you to be happy about who you choose to marry! Psalm 37:4 says that when we delight ourselves in God, He grants us our hearts' desires. He knows the desires of our hearts and wants us to live full, satisfying lives, and to do so with someone suitable. Right from the beginning, God saw man and said that it's not good for him to be alone, and God made the woman as a suitable help (Genesis 2:18). The NLT version says, 'I will make a helper who is just right for him'. Adam was certainly pleased with God's choice! We see the heart of the Father: He anticipates our needs and wants to give us a suitable partner that we can fulfil purpose with! So rest in God knowing that He knows exactly what you need in your spouse. Make a habit of giving thanks to God regularly for the man/woman of your dreams. The more you do this, the more conscious you are of God and His ability in meeting all your needs.  

Fall in love with the things of God, find delight in Him! As you do so, your desires will begin to align with His. The more you spend time with someone, the more they rub off on you. It't the same with God! His glory, His presence, His ways, will affect you and what you pursue after. And like Adam, when God leads you to the person of your dreams, you will say, 'this person is the bone of my bone, the flesh of my flesh!'

JOURNAL: 

Have you shared your desires about your future spouse with God? Don't leave out any details that matter to you, because nothing is too big or small for Him. As you talk to God, ask Him to speak back to you and show you areas that you need to heed to. Dedicate time regularly to hear from God.